Tuesday, 15 April 2008
True Love yeah right!
Is there such a thing as true love? Is it possible to encounter such an event that can sweep you away? Well I challenge this question because of the obvious factors that surround this momentous engagement. If there is such a great and wonderful soul grasping movement in our existence how is it that the greater ninety percent of more of the world's population never dance to the sweetness of this tune? This highly anticipated tea party scarcely invites or receives visitation equaling the magnitude of its greatness and fulfillment. Can this artifact come with a simple answer at all? The answer is far from simple and complex is a mere understatement. There are grave differences that challenge the true love theory to be a realistic entity. We swindle around the majority of our lives expecting to run into the perfect being that will set our entire being on fire and he or she appears to be in some form intertwined in every Keisha or Jason that passes our way. Why is this so common amongst our relationships you ask? Its simple we are searching for that which we may never have. The reason for this is because we are so caught up in the "Hollywood" fairy tales about the unknown and the unseen.Now to say that true love does not exist is not an exact statement to live by but more importantly its serves a better purpose if we detail the love episode we agree to attach ourselves with on a daily basis. Why are we fighting with the powers that are already in play when we know that at the end of the day we are going to continue with the up and down quandaries that challenge us in the so-called relationships we are already in. Is there love some where in this situation? Is there a chance for love in this situation? If neither of the two can be implemented in the outcome of the ordeal why do we continue to stay put?
True Love ... Obeys! by Mike Barres
[Jesus said] "Not everyone who says to Me, 'Lord, Lord,' shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven." (Matthew 7:21)
In Athens, Greece, an event took place that most people didn't hear much about. The event was held Sunday, Aug. 22, at the Dora Stratou Theatre located on a hill adjacent to the Acropolis, site of the Greek Parthenon. It was sponsored by True Love Waits. This program challenges teens to abstain from sexual intimacy until marriage. 460,000 commitment cards from teens all over the world (20 countries, 200,000 from Africa) were presented as True Love Waits celebrated their 10th Anniversary. The pledge on those commitment cards said, "Believing that true love waits, I make a commitment to God, myself, my family, my friends, my future mate, and my future children to a lifetime of purity including sexual abstinence from this day until the day I enter a biblical marriage relationship." True love really does wait.
I'd like to coin another phrase, "True Love Obeys." If we truly love the Lord, we will want to obey Him. InJohn 14:21, Jesus says, "He who has My commandments and keeps them, it is he who loves Me. And he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and manifest Myself to him."
Obedience shows where our heart truly is.Words like obedience, righteousness, holiness and repentance seemed to have fallen by the wayside. We have and should continue to emphasize that we are saved by grace. However, these other words are in the Bible, too. Obedience doesn't save us, but it does show that we truly love the Lord and have been genuinely converted. "Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice." (1 Samuel 15:22)
Biblical repentance is more than just an acceptance of the truth, it is also a change of heart. If we have truly repented and are born again, we will want to obey the Lord. Does that mean that we are perfect? By no means. But we should desire to obey.
Does obedience matter? Yes. It shows where our heart truly is. Obedience shows that we really love God. It shows that we have sincerely repented. It shows that we want to please our loving Heavenly Father. Not only does true love wait, but "True Love Obeys!" Let's show our love through our obedience!
True Love Might Require That You Love Him-Her Enough to Let Them Go
True love is supposed to be what brought you together. Many couples though, whether just dating, engaged to be married, married couples or people just living together experience difficult times, heartaches and breakups. Does true love have a roll at these times? What if it does? Can you handle that kind of love?
It's true you don't feel true love when you are the one being left. There is no sense of love when someone leaves you and you feel betrayed or, feel that you have been done wrong. What you are feeling is angry and hurt. But what if the shoe was on the other foot and you were the one who felt you needed to leave? Maybe it's not your desire to hurt the one you're leaving but you have realized that you didn't really love them. You want to move on because there is no sense in trying to be a couple if only one of you desires to be there.
If you are the one being left how should you respond in the situation? How does true love play a part in such a scenario? You are angry and hurt. You feel betrayed and maybe even a bit used and down right mistreated. These are the kinds of feelings and emotions that accompany being left. It's like the fabric of your very being is being ripped to shreds. When you can't seem to stop or get through these feelings and emotions they can lead to bad health. So what can you do differently to avoid the stuff? Well, how deep is the well where love exists in your heart? Not your love for the other person but just love in you.
Here is True Love
Love would not hold someone prisoner. Love won't try to force someone's will. Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged. It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. Love never fails.
That is true love. Sounds like a lot doesn't. The good news is that you don't have to do love. Let love do itself. Read again all the things love is and then just submit to it. You have to submit your self to love. In your pain; in your loneliness; in your misery; in your deepest most profound sadness submit yourself to love.
Sometimes it may feel like you are giving up or giving in. You may feel like a failure, defeated and beaten down but, you must submit to true love. It is not that you are doing this for the other person so much as you are doing it for yourself. You only give up your desire for love. To submit to love is to release yourself from the pain. If you don't submit to love you can't forgive. And if you can't forgive you will remain trapped in your pain, loneliness, misery and sadness. No matter what you decide to do, love and forgive or, refuse to love and refuse to forgive, the person who left will still be gone. More than likely they will be going on with their life.
True love helps you to release them without anger and malice. In releasing them through love you release your self to quicker healing. To love in this way helps you avoid bitterness. You will become stronger and mentally more stable. Your emotional health will be stimulated. You will be wiser for your next relationship. Yes there will be another relationship. You will be wiser going in and able to again love freely. Love will carry you through and guide you into a relationship with someone who will truly love you. Relationships may end but true love never fails.
The Mechanics of Faith Is a website where I hope to share some insight to growing in faith, and learning to trust God's word. As I learn a will give any tips and instruction that will hopefully be of use to the readers of The Mechanics of Faith Web site.
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It's true you don't feel true love when you are the one being left. There is no sense of love when someone leaves you and you feel betrayed or, feel that you have been done wrong. What you are feeling is angry and hurt. But what if the shoe was on the other foot and you were the one who felt you needed to leave? Maybe it's not your desire to hurt the one you're leaving but you have realized that you didn't really love them. You want to move on because there is no sense in trying to be a couple if only one of you desires to be there.
If you are the one being left how should you respond in the situation? How does true love play a part in such a scenario? You are angry and hurt. You feel betrayed and maybe even a bit used and down right mistreated. These are the kinds of feelings and emotions that accompany being left. It's like the fabric of your very being is being ripped to shreds. When you can't seem to stop or get through these feelings and emotions they can lead to bad health. So what can you do differently to avoid the stuff? Well, how deep is the well where love exists in your heart? Not your love for the other person but just love in you.
Here is True Love
Love would not hold someone prisoner. Love won't try to force someone's will. Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged. It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. Love never fails.
That is true love. Sounds like a lot doesn't. The good news is that you don't have to do love. Let love do itself. Read again all the things love is and then just submit to it. You have to submit your self to love. In your pain; in your loneliness; in your misery; in your deepest most profound sadness submit yourself to love.
Sometimes it may feel like you are giving up or giving in. You may feel like a failure, defeated and beaten down but, you must submit to true love. It is not that you are doing this for the other person so much as you are doing it for yourself. You only give up your desire for love. To submit to love is to release yourself from the pain. If you don't submit to love you can't forgive. And if you can't forgive you will remain trapped in your pain, loneliness, misery and sadness. No matter what you decide to do, love and forgive or, refuse to love and refuse to forgive, the person who left will still be gone. More than likely they will be going on with their life.
True love helps you to release them without anger and malice. In releasing them through love you release your self to quicker healing. To love in this way helps you avoid bitterness. You will become stronger and mentally more stable. Your emotional health will be stimulated. You will be wiser for your next relationship. Yes there will be another relationship. You will be wiser going in and able to again love freely. Love will carry you through and guide you into a relationship with someone who will truly love you. Relationships may end but true love never fails.
The Mechanics of Faith Is a website where I hope to share some insight to growing in faith, and learning to trust God's word. As I learn a will give any tips and instruction that will hopefully be of use to the readers of The Mechanics of Faith Web site.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Tony_Tate
What is true love and how do you know when you have found it?
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Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.—I Corinthians 13:4-8a (NIV)
This verse describes the characteristics of true love. These qualities can certainly be found in the person of Jesus Christ, and they can be found in all truly loving relationships. The problem with trying to “find” love in our dating lives, is that too often we don't look for these characteristics. Rather we look at physical appearance, popularity, or wealth. These are not the qualities that God looks at and neither should we.
But the LORD said to Samuel, “…The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”—I Samuel 16:7b (NIV)
Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action—true love.
Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with ACTIONS and in truth. I John 3:18 (NIV)
Christ was devoted to us enough to give his own life for us (Romans 5:8), even when he didn't feel like it (Matthew 26:39).
Sex is not love! Our culture has taught us that sex and love are one in the same. This is a lie. Sex is a beautiful God-given activity that is wonderful when practiced within the boundaries of a Biblical marriage. Sex is the completion of the binding of two people within Biblical marriage; it is a God-given gift.
PRE-MARITAL SEX
Because premarital sex is not love, it only leads to pain and disappointment for those who are seeking that love. The Bible says that when two people are married, they become one flesh (Ephesians 5:31). Sex is consummation of that union. When two people break off their relationship after having sex, it is like ripping apart flesh. This is why two teenagers will struggle so much and become so dependent on those they give their bodies to. In light of I Corinthians 13:4-8 (above), it is easy to see that premarital sex is not patient, it is not kind, it does not protect, it is self-seeking. It is not love!
IDENTIFYING TRUE LOVEWe can only identify true love and know when we have found it, based on the Word of God. When we match our relationships up to what the Bible says that love is—and we are honestly prepared to make a life-long commitment to that person—then we can say that we are truly “in love.” The three keys to that statement are:
We have to…
look at the Word of God
be completely honest with ourselves
understand the level of commitment that comes with true love
Copyright © 1997, Dawson McAllister Live!, All Rights Reserved - except as noted on attached “Usage and Copyright” page that grants ChristianAnswers.Net users generous rights for putting this page to work in their homes, personal witnessing, churches and schools.
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Should I save sex for marriage? Why? Answer
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Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.—I Corinthians 13:4-8a (NIV)
This verse describes the characteristics of true love. These qualities can certainly be found in the person of Jesus Christ, and they can be found in all truly loving relationships. The problem with trying to “find” love in our dating lives, is that too often we don't look for these characteristics. Rather we look at physical appearance, popularity, or wealth. These are not the qualities that God looks at and neither should we.
But the LORD said to Samuel, “…The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”—I Samuel 16:7b (NIV)
Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action—true love.
Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with ACTIONS and in truth. I John 3:18 (NIV)
Christ was devoted to us enough to give his own life for us (Romans 5:8), even when he didn't feel like it (Matthew 26:39).
Sex is not love! Our culture has taught us that sex and love are one in the same. This is a lie. Sex is a beautiful God-given activity that is wonderful when practiced within the boundaries of a Biblical marriage. Sex is the completion of the binding of two people within Biblical marriage; it is a God-given gift.
PRE-MARITAL SEX
Because premarital sex is not love, it only leads to pain and disappointment for those who are seeking that love. The Bible says that when two people are married, they become one flesh (Ephesians 5:31). Sex is consummation of that union. When two people break off their relationship after having sex, it is like ripping apart flesh. This is why two teenagers will struggle so much and become so dependent on those they give their bodies to. In light of I Corinthians 13:4-8 (above), it is easy to see that premarital sex is not patient, it is not kind, it does not protect, it is self-seeking. It is not love!
IDENTIFYING TRUE LOVEWe can only identify true love and know when we have found it, based on the Word of God. When we match our relationships up to what the Bible says that love is—and we are honestly prepared to make a life-long commitment to that person—then we can say that we are truly “in love.” The three keys to that statement are:
We have to…
look at the Word of God
be completely honest with ourselves
understand the level of commitment that comes with true love
Copyright © 1997, Dawson McAllister Live!, All Rights Reserved - except as noted on attached “Usage and Copyright” page that grants ChristianAnswers.Net users generous rights for putting this page to work in their homes, personal witnessing, churches and schools.
Further information
Should I save sex for marriage? Why? Answer
Is formalized marriage becoming obsolete? Answer
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by Dillow & Pintus
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[More Details] US$1895
Every Man’s Marriage: Every Man’s Guide to Winning the Heart of a Woman book
by Arterburn and Stoeker
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[More Details] US$1395
Love Life for Every Married Couple book
by Ed Wheat, M.D. and Gloria Okes Perkins
How to fall in love, stay in love, rekindle your love! This bestseller has helped thousands of Christian couples improve their love lives and enjoy happier, more deeply committed marriages. Includes tips on becoming your mate’s best friend, how to inspire deeper sharing and intimacy, how to improve the art of romantic touching, fresh ideas of ways to communicate appreciation, and much more!
[More Details] US$999
Sex, Love and Relationships: Straight talk from Pam Stenzel
Tells young people the whole truth about the consequences of sexual activity, experimentation and permissiveness. Teenagers love Pam because she talks with authority (based on years of counseling and speaking experience) — and she tells it to them straight, mincing no words in showing how pervasive sexual permissiveness of our culture is a deceptive trap.
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